The first thought was to title this writing “mindsets” however as you can see “cloned” won the day. Both have much in common, my purpose of choosing this topic, as actually my first topic after the introduction, had a very definite purpose.

You are a very unique person, there is no one with your DNA or your finger print, that is how special you are. There are many days we do not feel that special or unique, but we are! It has taken me a long time to come to that realization and mostly because of my mindset and what we shall call the societal mindset. Where does that societal mindset come from? It basically comes from anything that interacts with our five senses and that starts at a very early age. It does not take long before a child will begin to try and set the ground rules to be their own person by acting out or throwing a tantrum. Immediately the training begins on what is right and what is wrong and on it goes. This continues, sometimes it is not verbal, most times it is about who or what we are that speaks much louder then what we say. I have come to realize that my children were more influenced by what I did then what I said.

Different elements of society, either implied or otherwise are always directing us to what or who we should be, how we should act or not act, what we should do or not do. If we are conscientious and want to do right there are so many things or people that we can turn to, that will show us or help us to be a better person, how to be a contented person, how to get our act together. On the opposite end of the same plateau is the rejection of those things, to maintain our independence. That will not cut it, to be against something or someone is to be controlled, negatively. Control is the key word. That creates somewhat of an oxymoron, and a valid question. How do I not be controlled by a person or situation, I have to be either for or against. Not necessarily, you can be not for or against, that is freedom.

My desire is not to give direction or even encourage you to take direction from  anything written in this blog. Your natural thought is to say, “then what is the purpose of what you write?” My sole purpose is to challenge you to think about what is said. This is my journey, or my experiences that I am relating too, that is my truth. When I said I don’t have the answer, but you do, that was not meant as a catch phrase or something to attract your attention. It is a reality for me. If you agree with what I say without giving it much thought, without realizing it you are been cloned. If you reject what is written in this blog without giving it much thought, you are already cloned.


My desire, is that you might glean something from this blog that will enhance your life. The blog expands somewhat on my personal journey, it can be generic with many people, it has the ability to increase your productivity, creativity, work-life balance, happiness, love, friends and most of all greater peace with one’s self.

On this blog you are invited to take a journey, not with me, but a journey with yourself. This can be exciting and revealing. It will require honesty and forgiveness, that is not the norm when dealing with yourself, but it is imperative to do so, to receive the benefits you are looking for.

The tag line challenges you to be your own life coach, that is not a fancy statement to catch your attention. It is about you and only you. Myself, or no one else has the answer to a fuller life for you, but you do.

My writings have not been gleaned from academia, but rather my life experiences. It is a journey I have taken. The hills I climbed, the valley’s I experienced, the storms, the calms, all part of this exciting journey called life. Every experience, good and bad, had a purpose that helped or guided me to what I call a sweet spot in my life. The same can be for you, but no one can experience it for you, just as no one could experience my journey for me.